Back when Periscope was hot, I thought it was the dumbest thing ever. Who looks at people talking live and unscripted about nonsense?! I was events manager at the time, and part of my work was scoping out potential speakers for conferences. Periscope was an ideal place to scope out speakers. So, I decided I couldn’t talk shit about the tool until I used it for 30 days. And, that’s exactly how I became one of those people who went live, unscripted talking about nonsense. I did it every morning, at the same time for six months and I loved it.
I found my groove, my tribe, and topics that sparked joy for me. I looked forward to sharing crazy stories and re-enacting my conversations about my co-workers and friends. I have encountered some deeply touched people over the years, but my favorite ones are the haters.
Haters are your biggest fans. You live rent-free in their heads and they talk about you to anyone who will listen. That is a fan, my friend.
If you think about it, haters and fans have a lot in common:
They are constantly trying to get your attention. Haters want you to know they hate you and how much. It isn’t good enough that THEY know they hate you. They want EVERYONE to know they hate you. 😂 Fans want everyone to know how much they LOVE you.
Fans and haters study you to the point of obsession and welcome the opportunity to talk about you to anyone who will listen.
And, they dream about you night and day. Period. That is rent-free living, baby!
Deep down, haters really want to be you. You have a secret sauce they can’t figure out and that drives them up the f-ing wall. Breaking you down makes them feel better about themselves. Looking for and pointing out your flaws makes them think you are nothing special. Thing is, you have nothing to prove to a hater.
Putting a positive spin on this, haters are your biggest fans. As they try to recruit others to the hater coalition, those people will check you out for themselves and decide whether to hate you or like you. Most people are not sheep and they won’t waste their time trying to drag you down because another person claims to not like you.
Hating someone takes a lot of energy. It is wasted time you can’t get back. Trying to convince someone they shouldn’t hate you is also wasted time. As long as you are your most authentic self for YOU first, your tribe of people will naturally find you and like you just the way you are.
This was so on time! Love this and love you friend!
It’s wonderful to see such a positive spin on this. Thanks!